There's an enveloping sadness that washes over a man when he comes to the realization that his last love has moved on and forgotten about him. It's emotional and it's understandable why a sense of loss would accompany those feelings. The promise that was still alive has now vanished and all that is left for you to do is move forward towards a future without her. As overwhelming a notion that seems to be, it's necessary for your own emotional well-being and happiness. There is no argument that break ups are painful and can feel devastating, but they can also be a strong source of learning and self-realization. You can grow as a man and a potential partner from this and if you set your focus right you can become the man of any woman's dreams by using the pain you feel now to make positive changes.
If your ex girlfriend is over you, it's important that you come to terms with the break up and let go of the emotions that you've been holding onto in response to that. In other words, all that anger, anxiety, tension and frustration must become part of your past and not a continuing part of your future. You may resent her if the break up was solely her decision. Perhaps you feel swallowed by sadness because she's the only woman you've felt such a strong emotional connection with. Dealing with these emotions can be challenging but the reward of freedom is worth it.
Begin by writing down everything you've been feeling about your girlfriend. There's no need to hold anything back since this won't be something she or anyone else will ever see. Pour your heart out in the form of written or typed words. Once you're done look at the list. There's a wide range of emotions there, right? That's actually healthy because it means you're a sensitive soul which will help you tremendously as you move forward towards a new relationship. Pick out which emotions you feel most frequently. Those are the ones you must focus on now.
If you're angry with your ex, you must find forgiveness in your heart. If you don't, the bitterness you feel will manifest itself in negative ways and you'll become a misguided shell of the man you could be. Forgiveness doesn't come easy but once given it can transform your outlook. Think about choice and how sometimes we're not able to choose what our heart decides. Perhaps your girlfriend simply fell out of love with you and you should see her actions in breaking up with you as compassionate instead of destructive. Maybe she just wanted you to find someone who could love you the way you deserved to be loved.
As you work through the emotions you've identified, keep a strong focus on the man that you are. Just because your girlfriend rejected you that doesn't mean that there won't be a dozen women in the future who would love to be involved with you. If you take the pain and utter disappointment you feel now and learn from it, you'll become that much more desirable because you'll be one of a few rare men who is in touch with his emotions and isn't afraid of expressing them.
There will be moments when you miss your ex girlfriend enormously. Expect those and allow yourself to experience them. Trying to shut down those feelings won't magically make them disappear. Feeling them and then letting them go will help you deal with what's happened in a way that is best for you and your heart.
You know your heart better than anyone. Moving forward from a break up is a marathon, not a sprint. Taking time to decide whether you want to embrace the break up or get her back is essential.
If you do decide that your love is worth another try, there are ways to get her to open up to you again so you two can rebuild your connection.
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