Horror Debbieon, her husband and the "best friend" began to meet for a coffee and talk and text up to five times per day. They said "there was nothing in it" and she was be paranoid to be jealous of them.
When curiosity got the better of her and Debbie checked his cell phone and found messages like "you're so hot when we get together once again?"-She exploded and asked Todd to leave. He begged to stay, saying that he and Simon was not "went all the way with sex", but had just "fooling around a bit." Debbie said she never wanted to see one of them again and they could have another. She didn't care if they never had sex, have betrayed her emotionally!
Debbie was mortified When his children began to implore her to leave their dad come home. They couldn't understand why their MOM was being so horrible to their dad.
What was even worse, was that they were also annoying you to take them to play with children, Simone, with whom they were best friends.
Debbie did not know what she should do and came to advice? She asked: "can I tell the truth? Am I being paranoid? "
I explained that forgiveness is often challenging, when a spouse tricks, but when it is with your best friend, is double treachery. Certainly one of them must go. How could you ever trust them again? You would be constantly checking your phone-and never want them to be alone together.
So who's going? Must be the girlfriend because you broke your trust twice-firstly to become intimate with your husband and secondly, in sharing your confidences all the time that she has brought forward a conspiracy with your husband.
If your husband was a good father and a friend to you and the children really want him home, you might give it just one more chance, but only if he has advice and holds every promise made with you in the future. Oh, and don't tell the kids-they love their dad and need to look at him. If they get their father returns home, encourage them to make new friends!
Dr Janet Hall
Dr. Janet Hall is a psychologist, Hypnotherapist, sexologist, author, professional speaker, trainer and media consultant. Dr Jan has written eight books on issues of family and relationship and recorded 42 CD/MP3 player, many use hypnosis. He founded the Richmond Hill clinical psychology-http://www.drjanethall.com.au/
Jan consults regularly with print media and is a frequent guest on radio talk-back and current affairs shows. Jan has a unique ability to encourage people to clarify their situation and solve their own problems with the heart is (trusting intuition and feelings) and head (with logical analysis and rational prioritization). She believes that people deserve to feel power and allow themselves to be the best I can for the good of all.
